My birthday week continues to be all about being an adult. While Tuesday and Wednesday focused on the joys of being a not-so-adult adult, today is about one of the best parts of actually being an adult. Sure, this is a topic that seems to be “taboo” across the healthy-living-blog, but who would I be if I hesitated to over-share?
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On Valentine’s Day, I mentioned that I bought myself a present.
I didn’t mention what that present was.
Since I’m saving the bananas for my mouth these days (Wait…what?) and had been relying on a weak $10 “novelty” vibe that drained batteries like nobody’s business, I wanted to treat myself to a toy with some quality, options and power.
I’m a strong believer that sexual health is an essential part of overall health, confidence and body-appreciation (because heck, it’s the only body you get, you better like it and treat it right!). So how come this essential part of a healthy life never shows up in this here healthy blogging community? Healthy food, healthy fitness, sometimes healthy thoughts–but healthy sex (or sex replacement)? Not so much. But it should! A little self-love takes a lot of pressure off, in more ways than one. Relaxation, single-life-enjoyment, and, mostly importantly, fun. I mean, seriously, you can’t take yourself too seriously in any aspect of life–sex life particularly–or you’re getting nowhere.
Do you think a healthy sex life is a necessary part of an overall healthy life? Anything you’d like to over-share today?
ForgottenBeast 
YEAH, GIRL.
Seriously, study after study links decreased stress with a healthy sex life. And I totally agree that it’s not discussed enough in the HLB world. Our bodies don’t operate in vaccuums! Sexual health, phyiscal health, mental health – it all connects.
Exactly! You gotta have it all for a balanced life–can’t just pretend the sexual side of life doesn’t exist, because it sure does and it’s IMPORTANT, not some hush-hush inappropriate secret.
LOL! Rock on, my friend.
I have to say, when you mentioned that you had bought yourself a Valentine’s present, that is exactly where my mind went. Valentine’s Day when you’re in a couple means lots of sex, so why shouldn’t it mean the same when you’re single?! 😉
A satisfying sex life (or a healthy lack-of-sex life, for those who aren’t that way inclined) is hugely important for physical and mental health, in my opinion. It’s awesome that you’re talking about these things on your blog! Being ashamed of sexual desire and activity doesn’t help anyone.
Exactly! I really like being single right now, doesn’t mean I should have to give up on having a “sex life” just to enjoy being independent, and it doesn’t mean I can’t talk about it 😉
More power to ya hehe…get it? Seriously though we have a treasure chest too and I am married…lots of fun!
Yup, laughed at that 😀 And yes! Marriage shouldn’t mean giving up on new toys, glad you hear you guys keep it fun!
it’s unfortunate that sex is just sort of taboo in general, not only in healthy living – which it is indeed an essential aspect.
great post, good for you, girl!
Ooo, what a fun gift you got for you!
Way to go lady, this is a topic that so many skirt around
Do you love it? What make/model is it? I was never very impressed with the ones I have and usually do things myself. We have this crazy awesome shop in town called She Bop, a female owned/operated/friendly sex shop. I’ve been meaning to go!
It’s the Siri by Lelo (yes, same as the app thingie, no, I can no longer discuss iPhones with a straight face). Umm, MORE reasons for me to come to Portland. I just had to choose online–pretty happy with it though. Pros and cons, but overall a HUGE improvement from the vibe I was using before.
HAhahahahhaahhahahahhahaahahahaha
I hope you talk to your vibe just like you would an iPhone.
Rock on. My favorite radio station is Cosmo Radio, and I know Dr. Jenn would be in full support of this post.
I don’t have much experience with such electronics, but I commend those who do!
There’s a Cosmo Radio? That sounds like I’d be way too entertained by it 🙂 And giiirl, you need to get to experiencin’ ;D
Bam chicka wow wow. I love that you put it all out there, so to speak. I might not be single, but I’d have to recommend the rabbit. You take that thing for a test drive and I’m pretty sure you’ll know where I stand on this topic.
I have only heard fabulous things about rabbits, it’s definitely on my wishlist-to-myself!
Speaking of being an adult…I think it’s awesome you treated yourself. 🙂
You go girl! Guys do it like all the time so why is it so taboo among women??? Awesome V-day (haha… V day if you know what I mean…) present!
Ahaha, had to giggle at the v-day 😉 And I’m doing what I can to change that taboo!
I believe in taking care of all of your body including your sexual organs in anyway. Half the time women are so bitchy is because they aren’t getting laid or masterbating so if we all just realized its part of our health and well being, I think the world would be a happier place 🙂 you rock for posting this! Hope you enjoy :-). Love and shine courtstar
Yes yes! Glad you’re with me on this! And I am most definitely enjoying 😉
OMG HOW DID I MISS THIS POST. I have actually been thinking of starting a blog strictly about sex/dating/related fun stuff like vibrators. I really want to write about all that stuff because I think it’s so important, and also it really bothers me how it’s not acceptable for females to talk about sex/self love! Also, it’s funny. Example: In England there’s a store called Ann Summers that’s a sex shop for women, and it’s everywhere. Every mall or main street will have one. Totally not like the US! Anyway, they have this Rampant Rabbit vibrator that is their big thing, so I was like, I gotta get one of those. I should have started small, because I totally couldn’t handle it. It looked normal in the package but it was so big and heavy and awkward – all the buttons!! I didn’t even know what was happening. Things were spinning, poking, whatever. Omg. I just really wanted to write about the experience because it was so ridiculous (and cost a lot of money!!), and I wanted to ask the world how in the hell these insanity monster machine vibrators got so popular.
I KNEW you’d be with me on this one! Sex/sex life is so damn important, yet ladies never get real advice/information, they get weird, vague Cosmo tips at best. I’d say why not slap it all on the regular blog, but then realized some people share their blog with family members who may not be as used to over-sharing as mine are, haha.
And your comment about rabbits alone is cracking me up, pleeeeease turn that into a post! I bought one of those big honka toys a while back too and barely used it, finally ditched it. The four buttons on my new toy are confusing enough–I still have trouble figuring out right and left (these things are a challenge for me) and changing patterns without getting too distracted.
Yeah. I want to write about this stuff on my blog, but I’m hesitant because I’m so involved with social media at my company that everyone knows about my blog and I wouldn’t want potential future employers reading about that stuff. Or my dad! I am REALLY thinking about starting this blog. Perhaps you can guest write every other day! 😀
If you do start one, I’ll totally guest post! I kinda love the idea–we can share tales of online dating there too ;D
Hell yeah, girl! HELL YEAH! It really is crazy how taboo sex is in our culture when almost everywhere else, it’s common talk! Good for you for taking matters into your own hands…tee hee! I’ve got my own little handheld…it’s a butterfly…and it’s waterproof…F-U-N! Yep, that’s my overshare for the day! 😉